Book Club Discussion Guide
for ALL THE RIGHT MISTAKES
- Who has a right to tell another person’s story? Does it matter if it’s fiction?
- Is it true, as Martha reflects early in the book, that “no one is less kind to women than other women, regardless of the circumstance”?
- True or false – College friends are special because they know the “you” you were before life’s obstacles (and life’s compromises) came your way.
- Is it realistic for women to change institutions to fit their unique needs, or it is better for women to create their own institutions, as Elizabeth and Carmen do at the end of the book? What are the implications for that?
- Are the work conflicts presented in the book a fair representation of how things are? Are we improving on that score?
- Is Blake a realistic portrayal of a millennial colleague?
- Are some transgressions so profound that they are unforgivable? Should Martha have forgiven Heather, and will the relationship ever have a chance to be the same as it was before Heather’s book was published?
- Have you ever tried a version of Sara and Scott’s “task tracker”? Was it successful or a tool of resentment? What are other strategies for achieving equality at home, particularly in terms of chores?
- Is is fair, when one member of a couple is in a “saving lives” profession like Robert, to ask the other to give up their own professional ambition for the greater good?
- When you think about “where we are going” in terms of equality are you optimistic or pessimistic? Is the answer different for home and work?